A place to be heard
how do i get started?
If you are interested in starting therapy, I suggest we arrange a session to get to know each other. This would be an opportunity for you to talk about your situation and what you are hoping to work on. We can then agree the next steps.
When you contact me, I will usually try to ensure I have a time available that could work for you every week. Then when we meet, we will already know the options that are available for ongoing sessions.
in person and online
Whilst many people prefer to see me in person, I realise this isn't always possible and I am able to offer sessions online if that suits you better. If you do see me in person, you can also have occasional online sessions for the weeks when you can’t manage to attend in person.
Fee
Sessions are every week.
For individual therapy, sessions are 50 minutes long and my fee is:
· Tunbridge Wells - £70
· London Bridge - £95
· Online - £70
For couples therapy, sessions are 60 or 80 minutes long and my fee is:
· Tunbridge Wells - £85 / £115
· London Bridge - £110 / £155
· Online - £85 / £115
My fee increases pro rata if we agree sessions longer than 80 minutes.
I am open to negotiating what you pay. If you feel drawn to work with me then please feel invited even if you can't afford my full fee. I offer a number of reduced fee places.
what can i talk about?
Anything. It would be rare for me to come across an issue which I feel unable to work with. In the unlikely event that I do not consider myself the right person for you to work with I will support you to find a practitioner closely matched to your needs and circumstances.
But here’s a list of some of the areas I am experienced with and interested in. This is not exhaustive and I really am happy to work with anything you would like to bring.
Anxiety
Depression
Family Relationships
Intimate Relationships
Sex
The Erotic
Gender and identity
Life transitions
Men’s work
Mid-life
Growing older
The meaning of life
Spirituality and religion
The big questions in life.
Conflict resolution
Understanding assertiveness
Why do I keep repeating the same thing again and again?
What am I avoiding?
Loving yourself
Listening to your desires
Difficult experiences
Traumatic events (all of us experience trauma on some level) – see quote below
How to make decisions
How do I know what I know?
IS PSYCHOTHERAPY THE SAME AS COUNSELLING?
Psychotherapy includes Counselling. Typically a Counsellor will have a shorter training than a Psychotherapist. Counselling might be focussed on a specific event or life transition and once that has been looked at it might make sense to stop. Psychotherapy can do this but it is also an opportunity to go much deeper and to hopefully get to the root of things. An analogy I like is that Counselling (or Coaching or CBT among other disciplines) might focus on redecorating a room or perhaps several rooms whereas Psychotherapy might go beyond this and look at rebuilding your house, exploring what is happening with the foundations or in the basement and finding the hidden problems with the pipes and wiring. Psychotherapy is not about wallpapering over the cracks but trying to get to their causes and rebuilding the foundations and replastering the wall before redecorating.
Not all of us have unbearable trauma, but we are all injured to some degree. We all grow up in a home, or society, where only parts of ourselves are allowed to blossom, while other unacceptable parts are locked away in a hidden recess of our being. Few of us move into the second half of life having lived the first half in an environment where we were fully seen, mirrored, validated and allowed to live.
Donald Kalsched, Jungian Analyst
