A place to be heard

If you are interested in starting therapy, I suggest we have an initial session to get to know each other. This would be an opportunity for you to talk about your situation and what you are hoping to work on. At the end of the initial meeting we will agree the next steps. If you want to start therapy we will agree a regular time to meet and this will be your reserved space.

Whilst I find it preferable to see you in person, I realise this isn't always possible and I am able to offer sessions online if that suits you better. 

My standard fee is £95 per session in London and £70 per session in Tunbridge Wells or online. I am open to negotiating what you pay. If you feel drawn to work with me then please feel invited even if you can't afford my full fee. I offer a number of reduced fee places.

Sessions are at the same time every week and last 50 minutes.

Psychotherapy doesn't usually have a fixed duration but rather is tailored to be as long as you need. I work on an open-ended basis and the freedom of not having a pre-planned end date means you are free to stop or carry on depending on what works for you. It is better to think of therapy in terms of years rather than months as it is a depth process. 

I understand that sometimes it is not possible to attend every week. I ask that once we agree to work together you give me at least seven days’ notice of any sessions you cannot attend. Sessions cancelled with less than seven days’ notice are chargeable. 

We will have regular breaks in the work including Christmas, Easter, the summer months and occasional weeks at other times. I will give you lots of notice about breaks. 

I offer an opportunity for you to talk about anything. Coming to therapy can feel a little scary at first but I aim to create a really safe space for you to share even the most difficult things. I will listen and reflect back what I hear, encouraging you to say more. Together we will explore your experience, to make sense of it, to consider how you can find a way to move forward. 

Anything. But here’s a list of some of the areas I am experienced with and interested in. This is not exhaustive and I really am happy to work with anything you would like to bring.

Anxiety

Depression

Family Relationships

Intimate Relationships

Sex

The Erotic

Gender and identity

Life transitions

Men’s work

Mid-life

Growing older

The meaning of life

Spirituality and religion

The big questions in life.

Conflict resolution

Understanding assertiveness

Why do I keep repeating the same thing again and again?

What am I avoiding?

Loving yourself

Listening to your desires

Difficult experiences

Traumatic events (all of us experience trauma on some level) – see quote below

How to make decisions

How do I know what I know?

Psychotherapy includes Counselling. Typically a Counsellor will have a shorter training than a Psychotherapist. Counselling might be focussed on a specific event or life transition and once that has been looked at it might make sense to stop. Psychotherapy can do this but it is also an opportunity to go much deeper and to hopefully get to the root of things. An analogy I like is that Counselling (or Coaching or CBT among other disciplines) might focus on redecorating a room or perhaps several rooms whereas Psychotherapy might go beyond this and look at rebuilding your house, exploring what is happening with the foundations or in the basement and finding the hidden problems with the pipes and wiring. Psychotherapy is not about wallpapering over the cracks but trying to get to their causes and rebuilding the foundations and replastering the wall before redecorating.

I work with adults of any age.

Please ask in an email or a phone call.